I don’t know why I continue to be amazed by the serendipities that frequently occur in my work with spirit, but I do! Perhaps that’s not a bad thing, because I’d never want to take the connection, or the gifts it gives me, for granted. An example of spirit’s great sense of timing came in one of the monthly spirit writing classes I still enjoy taking. A few days before, I’d been speaking with a good friend about (again) feeling overwhelmed by certain people and she’d said (again) that I needed to set boundaries and stick to them. So I turned up at class a little tired and sorry for myself and the first task out of the spiritual hat was to pick a card at random from Meraylah Allwood’s The Wisdom of Trees oracle deck and write about it with a communicator. I picked Hazel (see the illustration above) and its key word is, you guessed it, ‘boundaries’!
What follows is the gentle lecture that spirit gave me – but as it’s something I believe many of us can benefit from thinking about, I’m sharing it. 🙂
Boundaries – 18 January 2015
Consider your viewpoint. Your perception is all.
A boundary is just that – a point of passage from one place to another, a threshold, a doorway, a mark of delineation. You think of boundaries as a means to block yourself in, or others out, but they are not, in their true sense.
A boundary is a mark of respect and an opportunity. Energetically, the boundaries you set conserve your efforts and energy for those tasks which are of the most importance. Respecting your carefully considered boundaries, and expecting others to do so too, enables you to give more of yourself, not less, and in the ways which most matter.
Your boundaries do not limit you. When they are set and respected with grace and wisdom and compassion, they free you. Do not fear the setting of boundaries as failure or as limitation. Instead consider it as a path to grace and fulfilment.
Self-discipline is at the heart of this important exercise. And remember your boundary is always flexible. You can choose, in exceptional circumstances, to step over it, or to invite another to do so. But the fact that it is there gives both you and the other pause, time to consider whether this is the correct choice of action.
Hazel bends with the wind and with the hand. Hazel is flexible, resourceful and useful. So, too, are boundaries. Observe the image. The hazel forms an archway, a natural place of shelter and a low fence that is easy to see over and beyond. Thus, too, can boundaries play many roles in your life.
Observe, in quiet reflection, where and why boundaries are needed. Build them lovingly, with due notice to those whose lives and relationships with you they may affect. Construct them carefully, for the best and most fruitful of intentions. And then, like Hazel, your boundaries will bear fruit to sustain you in all your future endeavours.