So it struck me that there is going to be an apparent ‘gap’ of 12 years between the recording of the words in my last post and those in my next – and it seemed strange not to briefly explain why. The simple explanation is that working with spirit doesn’t and shouldn’t mean that our human life gets put on hold. Stuff happens to us and it’s meant to – that’s what we’re here for!
By 2001 my writing had taken a somewhat different turn and spirit were encouraging me in the writing of a book (more of which later). Meanwhile, work with my group of like-minded spiritual adventurers continued apace and it had a profound affect on my day to day life. I found myself attempting things I would never have dared before and I was gaining a deeper understanding of the patterns and relationships in my current life. It sounds serious and much of it was, but the years 2001-2006 also contained some of the funniest, most inspiring and joyful experiences of my life.
But significant work inevitably drives significant change and, between 2004 and 2012 I navigated most of the ‘major life experiences’ learned people list as those that present us with the greatest challenges. Throughout it all, I knew my guides were there; I knew spirit was supporting me but I no longer had a group to practice with and I did not yet possess the knowledge or the discipline to do the work on my own. I felt adrift but not alone.
In the middle of all that, I connected briefly with another group and this poem, given out at (as it turned out) the first of a very few meetings, really helped me to ‘let go’:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.